Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ Kindle Edition

Never told you how to improve one's skills, just made you informed or aware of this topic - read other reviews same complaint. Big miss in leaving that out.

The overall premise of the book is a good one - emotional intelligence and the ability to handle our own emotions as well as recognize and interact with others' is an important skill in all aspects of life. But Goleman uses classic business book vignettes like parables which fool the reader into thinking there's some epiphany in the context of the pages, without any nuanced discussion of important and relevant examples that lie farther away from the extreme examples he includes. In multiple places, Goleman assumes an incredible amount of insight that isn't grounded in any science, repeatedly using words like "may" or "might" when the effect it to make hypothetical and unsubstantiated relationships appear true. The book also attempts to cover too many subjects to be coherent on any single one. Good central insight, poor execution.

A lot of what is in this book has been proven unhelpful, to say the least. For example, PTSD treatment is more successful using mindfulness meditation techniques rather than talk therapy. Talk therapy creates a repeated recreation of the trauma, where the body does not differentiate between the real event and the recollection. Mindfulness does exactly what the author proposes as a solution: it removes the person from the reactionary brain, allows the emotions to sit without reaction, to simply exist in the body, and so on. The author drones on about medication and talk therapy and I could not agree less. As I said, this has already been debunked. So, very unhelpful .The chapter on children was particularly disturbing to me and, in my mind, discredited the entire book. There are differences between timidity, shyness and introversion, yet the author uses the terms interchangeably AND infers that "introversion can be cured". Tell Susan Kane that. Sheesh! I could not really get past these inaccuracies and false judgments about introverts, but to me they were big red flags. I put the book aside, really considering what the author was trying to convey, but could not get past it. The chapter lacked expertise and detachment, to say the least. These judgments about introverts illustrate how little the author understands this subject at all.Or as the author repeats in almost every paragraph "in short". (Who edited this to allow for that?)The Managing with Heart chapter I also thought was too simplistic. There are other dynamics at play in the workplace, as there are in life. How many people have been dragged into meetings where people talk and talk just to hear their own voices, where things go off-topic, where nothing gets resolved, where everything gets "tabled" for the next unproductive meeting? A lot of times these alpha managers (male and female) know exactly what they are doing when the ridicule publicly. It has nothing to do with EI and a lot to do with ego. I suppose you could say that is a component of healthy EI, but the author never goes into ego or narcissism.Anyway, these things bothered me - A LOT - and forced me to take a break from the book. The author just lost so much credibility with me. I had heard so many references to this book that I was actually excited to read it. I am sorry to say just how disappointing and frustrating the experience has been.

Your browser does not support HTML5 video.  This is a truly Groundbreaking book that helps us understand the importance of Emotional Intelligence in our lives. There are 3 Keys to Emotional Intelligence:1. The ability to handle impulses2. The ability to handle difficulties and setbacks3. The ability to handle pressure and anxiety.Overall Emotional Intelligence is our meta-level ability to handle emotions and use them to our advantage. I discuss in more detail in the video above.

I regularly read about two books a week and this was on a recommended list from a company that summarizes books and shares them on audios. While I do enjoy some audio like this, I wanted to read this one.Written in 1995, this book has a great deal of common sense in it.It has 5 parts1. The emotional brain2. The nature of emotional intelligence3. Emotional intelligence applied4. Windows of opportunity and5. Emotional literacyAt a time in our country and globally when courtesy and bullying seems to be front and center more than it should be, this is a thoughtful book that points out many issues facing all of us at some points in our life. It also offers some insights we all can use:• What are emotions for• When smart is dumb• The roots of empathy• Intimate enemies• Mind and medicine• Managing with heart• The family crucible• Schooling the emotionsThis book does have some academic leanings and parts appeared to be dry. So, after reading the first 50 or so pages, I took a new track – I went to the index at the back of the book. In 9 pages of two columns, there are dozens of topics, ideas, issues and resources. I spent several more hours going back and forth, comparing ideas and simply thinking about what was written.In my business world, I offer consulting services and this book has enhanced some of what I already was practicing and it provided me with some great new ways of looking at things.Great book – highly recommendedIf you find this review useful, please let Amazon and me know by clicking the helpful button below!

I found this book fascinating and a real help in understanding both my own character and that of others and how their backgrounds may have shaped their personalities over years of learning how to survive emotionally. In short, it has made me be less judgemental about people and their attitudes, reactions and the way they handle situations.The only thing I would say is that though the book is an eye opener to why we are the way we are and that perhaps it's not our fault, (or anyone else's for that matter) it is only an eye opener and an introduction to the possibility of change through understanding and further research and does not really offer any practical advice that can be applied by ourselves to ourselves to help self improve and the only advice to help with others, mainly children, is from what we can glean from the anecdotal evidence from various studies, groups and experimental approaches tried by various schools, universities and programmes. There is no summing up of all the findings to create some kind of guide as to how to help your children, or indeed yourself, to be a more emotionally intelligent being.

Pirated copys are not acceptable from the company like Amazon.Verge shameful and very disastrous.I ordered more than 5 books and 5 of them are pirated (copied from the orginal, Duplicate copy)

What an insight.I only wish I had come across this book years ago.Sometimes it gets to scientific, but for the most part it a good read ( not a book to enjoy). This book is a keeper. I will be adding to my permanent library. I will be reading this book over and over ( it that good).It's given me a lot of insight into myself and why I am the way I am.It shows how to understand how conflicts arise and how to reduce, disarm potential conflicts.How to empathise and build a good self ethic.

Good book...But beats way too much around the bush.Thought it was an amazing book after reading the reviews.Don't be mislead by my comments its a good book but definetely overrated.

Highly informative and addressed the issues emotions to the details.I like the way the book lined nature (creation, humanity) with science. It attest to the truth already known. Love is the way! Understanding is key!Advanced English grammar. Highly descriptive and provide answers for high temperaments and how to positively explain to yourself to avoid a misunderstanding leading to anger.I recommend the book to those in search of answers to emotional excesses - anger, anxiety, emotional disconnect, inability to maintain friendships and relationships with opposite sex etc.